I have to admit I have been extremely guilty about focusing a lot of my attention on my kids and everything kid related. Like most moms, I tend to forsake a lot of my own needs and put my children’s first. If I have a few extra dollars in my purse, I spend it on my kids, a few extra minutes on the computer; kids stuff, chatting with my friends is all about our kids, and my husband and I, well, we mostly talk about the kids. Like a secret stage hand, my existence is sometimes hidden behind the curtain as my children take center stage in their experience of life.

As part of my New Years resolutions, I have decided to think a bit more about me as a mom. I want to concentrate more on being a happy mom who has found peace with dirty dishes and beds still unmade half way though the day. Sexy mom who may not have the body she once did, but still the desire and enjoyment that comes from being romantic. Patient mom that is kind to herself, accepting that she can only do so much. Active mom, who isn’t always rushing, late and frazzled, but who maybe does fewer things with a bit more satisfaction. Listening mom who hears not only the needs of her family, but the inner voice of her own hopes and dreams. And current mom, no more dated clothing, worn out shoes, sloppy hair and maternity underwear.

Unlike other years where I have made big plans or drastic changes, this year’s resolution it to resolve to what is and make the most of it. No more thinking it will be different, no more planning that when “it” changes so will I. This year is about embracing the life we are living and finding all that is wonderful and spectacular about it.

If you are like me, you may need a bit of time to plan out your new year’s resolutions, adding them into your traditions or starting a new ritual you’ll never forget. Use the next few days to start thinking about it, so when the big day is here, you are ready. Allow these four points to support and encourage you to enjoy the magnificent life you have, resolving to how special it really is.

In the dictionary resolution has 4 definitions.
1) The process of resolving.
2) Decision.
3) Determination.
4) Solution.

Said more eloquently, I’d like to think the deeper meaning is…
1) Let go of what you can not change.
2) Decide that what you do have is fantastic.
3) Be determined to enjoy your life.
4) Find the solution for every complication.

Standing on my Soapbox,

JB